As a coach, one of the things women tell me all the time is this:
I just want to know it’s possible to feel normal again.
And I get it. When you’re in the middle of heartbreak, betrayal or divorce, the future can feel like a foggy mess — full of questions, fears, and a version of you that you barely recognise.
This is exactly why I wanted to share some real, anonymised stories from women I’ve coached. Not for drama. Not for marketing. But, because when you see what’s possible for someone else, something inside you whispers:
Maybe I can get there too.
Stories move us from awareness to consideration, to decision — because they show us what support actually looks like, and what transformation really means.
Here are three journeys that capture that.
1. From Sleepless Nights to Finally Breathing Again
When LN. reached out to me, she hadn’t slept properly in weeks. Every night, she replayed the moment she discovered the affair. Every morning, she woke with that heavy, sick feeling in her stomach.
She told me:
I don’t know who I am anymore.
That was her awareness stage — recognising she couldn’t carry this alone.
Within a few sessions, she had:
- A step-by-step plan for her first 30 days
- Techniques to reduce the panic and intrusive thoughts
- A clearer sense of who she was outside the relationship
Eight weeks later, she told me she’d had her first full night’s sleep. Not because the pain disappeared overnight… but because she finally felt supported, safe, and back in control.
2. From Blaming Herself to Understanding the Truth
JS. came to me after leaving a long-term, emotionally abusive relationship. She wasn’t looking for coaching — she was looking for confirmation that she wasn’t “crazy”.
In her initial session, she wanted to understand:
- Why the relationship felt so draining
- Why she kept second-guessing herself
- Whether what she experienced “really counted” as abuse
Through our work together, she learned about trauma bonding, manipulation, and coercive patterns — and suddenly the dots connected.
She said:
For the first time in years, I feel like I’m not the problem.
That shift changed everything. She stopped apologising for things that weren’t hers to carry. She set boundaries. She stopped accepting crumbs.
And slowly, she began to rebuild her confidence from the inside out.
3. From Stuck in Limbo to Taking Brave Action
MB. hadn’t fully decided whether to separate or stay. She’d been in limbo for months — scared of making the wrong choice.
Her decision stage wasn’t about choosing divorce. It was about choosing clarity.
We worked through:
- Her values
- What she needed to feel safe and respected
- The patterns that were keeping her stuck
- The reality of her options — practically and emotionally
One day she said:
I feel more grounded than I have in years.
And eventually she made a decision — not from fear, but from strength.
Why These Stories Matter
Because your journey won’t look exactly like theirs — and it doesn’t have to.
But these stories show that:
- You’re not alone
- Your feelings make sense
- Healing is possible
- With the right support, transformation happens faster and with far less chaos
You only need to take your next step.
If you’re reading this because something in your life feels heavy, confusing, or overwhelming, please know this:
You don’t have to figure it out by yourself. Support exists. A better future is real. And you deserve to reach it feeling empowered — not broken.
And Why I Believe in This Work So Deeply
I know coaching works — not just because I’ve seen it transform the lives of the women I support, but because it transformed mine. After my own painful divorce, coaching was the thing that helped me rebuild my confidence, find my voice, and step back into my life with clarity and purpose. It gave me back my power. Now, helping others do the same is the most meaningful work I could ever imagine.
Natalie