People often ask me what a “typical day” looks like as a divorce coach.
The honest answer is… there isn’t one! However, there are patterns, and there are emotions that repeat themselves, which is what keeps the work engaging. I help men and women who are going through painful transitions, such as, but not limited to, divorce, toxic dynamics, and domestic abuse.
Having navigated my own divorce and the realities of co-parenting, I understand how disorienting this chapter can be and how deeply it affects every part of life.
Before The Calls Begin
I try to ensure that most days begin quietly. So, before emails, before calls, before holding space for other people’s lives unravelling, I take time to ground myself by walking my dog, doing Pilates, and grabbing a coffee. I do this because my work requires presence before anything else.
By mid-morning, the calls begin.
The Clients I Work With
One client is in the early shock of separation; everything still feels unreal. They’re not asking big questions yet; they just need to know the panic won’t last forever.
Another client is deep in legal proceedings. Exhausted, not just emotionally, but mentally too, and juggling forms, deadlines, solicitors’ emails, parenting, work, and the effort of holding it together in public.
Later, I speak to someone who is technically “out the other side” of divorce, but seemingly in ‘pause’ mode. On paper, life looks fine, but inside, they feel flat, disconnected, unsure who they are now that the identity they built for years has gone.
What Divorce Is Really About
Between calls, I take notes… not just on what’s said, but what isn’t!
Divorce is rarely just about paperwork, it’s about grief, fear, anger, relief, loss of identity and the quiet question people don’t always say out loud:
Will I ever feel like myself again?
Some days I’m helping clients prepare emotionally for mediation or court and other days it’s about boundaries, with an ex, with family, sometimes with themselves. Sometimes it’s a case of simply helping someone get through the next 24 hours.
The In-Between Moments
Much of my work happens in the in-between moments, the pause before someone speaks. The moment the client realise they’re not going “crazy” – they’re reacting normally to something destabilising. Just experiencing the relief of knowing they don’t have to make every decision today. My work is confidential and non-judgemental, I offer a safe space for clients to tell me whatever they’re comfortable revealing and we work from there.
Late afternoon, I’m usually writing or sharing insight publicly, not for visibility, but because so many people suffer in silence, convinced they’re the only ones struggling this way.
In the evening, I step back. This work matters deeply to me, but it requires boundaries (this is what I teach my clients too).
My coaching is action-led and I will help you fast track your emotions with powerful tools & techniques that I acquired through both my personal experience and Sara Davison’s training.
What Stays With Me
What stays with me at the end of the day isn’t the conflict or the drama, it’s the resilience of my clients.
The client who laughs for the first time in weeks or the parent who realises their children don’t need a perfect version of them, just a ‘present’ one. The moment someone says:
I handled that differently today.
My work is so rewarding, I’ve turned my pain into power, progress and positivity!
Divorce coaching isn’t about fixing people or telling them what to do. It’s about walking alongside them as they rebuild trust in themselves and remember who they were before everything became about survival.
Divorce isn’t just an ending… For many, it’s one of the most confronting and transformative chapters of their lives.
It really is a privilege to be trusted with that.