When my marriage ended, it didn’t feel like a chapter closing; it felt like my entire life had been ripped apart. The ground shifted and I was freefalling with nothing solid to grasp onto. When the future you thought you had all mapped out disappears, it leaves you completely lost. There’s no handbook for how to survive the emotional, practical, and psychological chaos that divorce brings and knowing where to seek help can be confusing.
My divorce cost me everything, my precious family unit, my dream home, the businesses my husband and I built together over 20 years, and a lifestyle I loved.
I remember those early days painfully well: waking up with a knot in my stomach, struggling to make the simplest decisions, constantly replaying conversations, and trying to make sense of a life that no longer made any sense. I felt powerless. Unanchored. Like my identity had been shaken right down to the core.
It was in that messy, disorienting space that something life-changing happened — I realised I wasn’t just trying to survive my divorce. I was trying to rebuild myself.
Coaching Became My Turning Point
I tried everything: therapy, self-help books, long walks, long cries, distractions… all of it helped a bit, but none of it gave me what I desperately needed: practical tools and emotional strategies to actually function, make decisions, and regain control of my life.
That’s when I discovered coaching — and it completely changed my trajectory.
Coaching didn’t ask, “Why did this happen?”
It asked, “Where do you want to go next?”
It helped me shift from the past to the future.
From feeling broken to feeling capable.
From chaos to clarity.
For the first time in months, I began to feel like me again — not the version of me who was hurting, but the version of me who was resilient, resourceful, and ready to rebuild.
From Rock Bottom to New Purpose
The more I learned, the stronger I felt. Not overnight — in tiny steps. Coaching helped me see that I wasn’t powerless. I had choices. I had agency. I had a future worth fighting for.
And somewhere along the way, a spark lit up inside me:
“What if I could help others feel this too?”
Because if I felt that lost, that overwhelmed, that alone… I knew thousands of women felt the same way and didn’t know where to turn.
So I trained. I studied. I built new skills, and with every step, I reclaimed more and more of myself, until I realised I didn’t just want to move on from my divorce. I wanted to turn it into something meaningful.
Coaching Gave Me Back My Power — And a Mission
Becoming a coach didn’t erase my pain, but it transformed it.
It gave me a purpose I never expected.
It turned my wounds into wisdom.
It taught me how to help others navigate the hardest moments of their lives with strength, clarity, and dignity.
Most importantly, it gave me back control, not over the situation, but over my response to it.
My mindset.
My direction.
My identity.
And helping others do the same is now one of the greatest privileges of my life.
If You’re in the Middle of Your Own Divorce Storm…
Know this: feeling lost doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means you’re human.
And you don’t have to stay stuck.
Taking back control doesn’t happen all at once, it happens with the first small decision to rebuild. Coaching was my path back to myself, and it might just be yours too.